Sofia sees her daughter shut down and reads it as not caring. Lucia sees her mother react to everything and reads it as overreacting. Neither is wrong about what they're observing. They're just observing each other through their own hardware. Sofia is a Sentinel — high sensory gain, everything lands. Lucia is a Shield — her system filters before input arrives. Same household. Same moment. Completely different experience of it.
What changed
"We stopped trying to make each other feel things the way we do. When I'm overwhelmed now, I tell her I need space — and she doesn't take it personally. When she seems flat, I don't assume she doesn't care. We finally stopped treating our difference like a problem to fix."